Spoke too soon...

School has turned my 3 year old into a habitual bed wetter. I have not had a solid night's sleep in over a month. Max wakes up at 4 or at 6 or both, usually wet. I've become a pro at changing sheets and finding dry blankets and pyjamas in the dark. Max has become a pro at speaking really loudly yet not waking up his sister.

We spoke to his teacher yesterday because this behavior - ie a good sleeper who is dry at night suddenly peeing and waking every night! - is a sign of some sort of stress. Not only is Max tired, but so am I but he's also acting out with hitting, biting and tantrums.

Max's 2 best friends from the crèche are in his class. They are inseparable. Although that in itself isn't a problem, it is starting to become one because Max seems to be very exclusive, pushing other kids away when they want to play with him and his buds. They do however allow another kid from the crèche to play with them.

Yesterday when I got Max from school, the ladies in aftercare told me Max broke down and cried when the parents came to pick up the kids. They said it wasn't a tantrum but real sad tears. They went next store to the upper school and brought Suzanne to give him a big hug (the schools are separate but have a common cafeteria).

When we spoke to Max's teacher this morning, he said he believes Max is scared of crowds and therefore is very attached to his little group. And now he's becoming aggressive which is a problem. Somewhere in there, he made me (and less so my husband) feel bad about our parenting. He suggested looking at what we do at home. All this is quite ironic since Max doesn't see his friends, S and A, outside of school. And he does have other friends he plays with. As my husband said, his teacher (the director of the school who is not known for his good relations with the parents) is there to listen to the kids, not the parents.

Add onto this the fact that I'm just exhausted and have no patience for Max at the moment (between his kicking, biting and screaming), that I can't infuse calm vibes in my son because I have NONE.

Max is no monster despite the description above. Max is a very sensitive and thoughtful little boy who hides his fears behind his joking nature. He's sweet and intelligent and obviously very complex.
And if he would let me sleep more, I'd be a much better mom.